The Web Life

There is no question that the modern world consists of a lot of beautiful things that help us in many ways. That is because it has the basics of technology and innovation. Some industries supply food, cars that support transportation, and smart devices that provide communication and convenience. The truth is, there is nothing much we can complain. However, what a lot of us pretty much do not seem to pay attention is the modern world’s powerful gear to cause mental illness. There are high levels of anxiety and low-levels of depression for that matter.

The Features Of Technological Modernity

According to UA Huntsville psychologist Pavica Sheldon, ““They live their lives immersed in technology, surrounded by cell phones, computers, videogames, digital music players and video cams,” Sheldon said. “We need to understand not just how they use these new tools, but how they are affected by them. Topics such as cyber bullying, addiction to cyber porn, and overall addiction to Internet games are something we need to study more.” We all can agree that there is no way anyone of us can stop modernization. That is why, instead of not wanting it, we tend to embrace and appreciate it. That is, regardless of its psychological, disturbing effects. However, the features of modernity seem pretty much unstable. Yes, each one of them has a potential cure. But we can only collectively put it into action once we get to know more about the psychological condition.

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Meritocracy – Society proves that those individuals with more money, talents, and guts, control the world. However, the downside of this liberating idea depends on a person perceived as incapable. If an individual cannot sustain its contribution to the growth of the world, then he gets considered an invalid piece due to his lack of talent and laziness. But this one’s a bit indefinite because we can all rely on two different ideas – luck and tragedy.

Individualism – Individualism functions very well in a technological society. It is where everyone is capable of achieving everything because they are capable of controlling things in a click away. For this case, it is not the community that matters, but rather the mental and emotional strength of someone who is focused and determined. Everything about this whole ideology disregards great and ordinary life because modernity becomes way better.

“As adults, we have leveraged technology to accomplish amazing things in our lives: we do our work, manage our social lives, consume news and entertainment, even make new purchases for the holidays, all with the push of virtual buttons. Despite being cognitively mature, emotionally resilient and capable of delaying gratification, we struggle to set limits on our own usage.” –Jyothsna Bhat, PsyD

Secularism – A technologically dependent secular society sees to believe anything that is beyond understanding. Usually, it uses to perform religious service to keep distance on people’s petty ways and status battle in perspective. Not that it isn’t a good choice. But its adaptation on the modern world can somehow generate a false view of an individual’s emotional, physical, mental needs. Come to think of it. There are pornography and obscurity that seems to hide in it.

Romanticism – Romanticism tells us that individuals feel satisfied and happy together when they settle for a moderate relationship. But you see, along with the damages of social media, handling relationship can become quite tricky. There is a disaster that can destroy any strong bond due to unfettered access to everything. Well, there might be a comparison of old and new things, but it doesn’t guarantee assurance.

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Media – Perhaps it is one of the most significant representations of modernity. However, it creates a psychological imbalance due to its ability to redirect our attention to damaging things that enrage, worry, and scare us. It denies the urgency of getting any chance of effective personal, emotional, and mental action. It favors the least sides of human’s life without the consideration of balancing function with people’s struggle in a technological world.

“Technology conditions the brain to pay attention to information very differently than reading.” Jim Taylor Ph.D. said. So to answer the question if the modern world is making us ill, it is a YES!

Feeling anxious? Is the world too loud? Does no one understand? I have the perfect app for you. BetterHelp is an app that provides mental health counseling and it provides you with a better understanding of what you’re going through. You can download the app on IOS and Android!

Perhaps you already know a lot about the internet of things, Big data processes, data analytics, and even software development. That is because, in today’s world, technology is the number one source of convenience and progress. It is as if it controls the whole system of the world when it comes to economic development and industrial growth. That is not all. Technology serves its purpose in providing people with convenience and advance level of function. However, there is always a downside to every inch of its development. Let’s try and talk about technology’s positive and negative impacts.

“There is also little doubt that all of the new technologies, led by the Internet, are shaping the way we think in ways obvious and subtle, deliberate and unintentional, and advantageous and detrimental.” –Jim Taylor Ph.D.

Positive

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• One significant advantage of technology is the comfortability and access to communication. Getting in touch with friends and family, and other individuals are way more efficient and convenient nowadays. That is because some devices and applications help in providing that.
• “I believe most of these fear-mongering claims about technology are rubbish. There are several common myths of technology addiction that deserve to be debunked by actual research.” That is according to Christopher J. Ferguson Ph.D. in clinical psychology. Technology opens an excellent possibility of earning money from working at home. It builds a connection from different people all over the world which also helps in securing the virtual working relationship. It allows a more convenient setup that focuses on the number of production instead of physical presence.
• Brilliant use of technology also focuses on helping the business to gain competitive advantages in the market. It includes obtaining more customers, having product research, and improved services. Industries and companies are using technological strategies to win indirect and direct business operations.
• The technology incorporated in healthcare provides the most considerable advantage of saving lives. With the assistance of advanced tools and equipment, healthcare procedures receive less delay. It also promises better results from an accurate diagnosis of signs and symptoms.
• The most significant help of technology is educational advancement. It supports more comfortable and faster research that helps students in learning. It caters to the requirements of those people who don’t have the financial stability to support education.

Negative

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• As much as people love technology, its capability in accessing a lot of information is dangerous. There are pornography and violence everywhere. People can use damaging information to control even the most manageable situation. 
• Technology has a hard time processing cybersecurity. In unfortunate cases, its lack of privacy destroys people. That is because addresses and other personal information are out on the web and are a few clicks away from the keyboard.
• With regards to web safety, some viruses penetrate any computer systems. The goal of that is to reach information beneficial for blackmail and cyber extortion. Though not all viruses are like that, the idea of its malicious inputs should never receive less attention
• In this generation, technological damage also takes place in the form of cyberbullying. Since it is pretty much impossible to get a hold of the people behind the computer, it becomes easier for them to create massive cyber destruction. Also “It has been found that prolonged and unmonitored technology usage can impact children on the cognitive, psychosocial, and psychological levels.” says Jyothsna Bhat, PsyD.
• As much as people rely on technological convenience, their mental state receives no quality of exemption. That is the reason why addiction becomes rampant in all aspects of innovation’s use.

The positive and negative things about technology can go on. As humans, we have to thank technology for the convenience and better way of living. But are we prepared for future destruction? Think about it.

The experience of technological innovation is always advancing. There is incorporation in financial function, industrial production, gaming enhancements, and business strategies. There is no stopping the growth of multiple uses of technology. That is why even travel and education are now also part of it that receives benefits of improvements. In line with that concept, people are far more engaged in rooting for convenience as well as modernized career. But what are those technological specifications that somehow create a difference in people’s lives?

Data Integration

The advancement of transforming, extracting, and loading information generally targets the use of data warehousing and integration. Its function is to allow companies and industries to gather and transfer data from various sources, which is in a private computer system, or online access. It also includes cleaning, reformatting, and loading data in an analyzed backup system. Some best examples of its application are employee information, financial calculation, as well as direct and indirect business operations. But data integration still needs perfection. That is because it contains crucial components in the growth of marketing and business intelligence. Yes, it guarantees a smooth flow in a database. However, access, security, and functionality need to process consistencies.

Data Analytics

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Data gets produced by multiple sources. It is helpful and secures a great source of information for businesses and industries. However, it becomes useless when people cannot understand it. That is why there is data analytics. It is the representation of data at the right time, which enables people to have the most compelling insight into what they are receiving. Yes, data analytics are sometimes unreliable for some reasons. However, with the right visualization tool, business and organizations will have a chance to identify fundamental future opportunities as well as optimal business and marketing solutions.

Big Data

If you are still unaware, big data receives a lot of attention for the last few years. Perhaps that is due to the issues that incorporate with it. These include the association of storing and processing different types of information. Since there are tons of it, the impossibility is endless. Most of the companies today rely on its analytics in the aim of gaining insight about specifics such as marketing initiatives, customer needs, and product research.

DevOps

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Let’s clear it first. DevOps is not a technology, but instead a practice. It aims to bring closer operation staff and software developers to work on the same specific project. That includes a collaborative manner and systematic roles for each individual. The following method of DevOps stresses in integration, communication, and collaboration of people. Its advancement benefits companies and industries with speed, reliability, scale, rapid delivery, improved collaboration, as well as security. Some of the companies that use DevOps are Facebook, Netflix, Amazon, Twitter, and Google. That is because the essential function of DevOps is to manage systems, build a career, access applications, and improve systematic infrastructure.

Understanding technology is quite impressive. Not only it makes people understand innovation better, but it also allows them to see a brighter future.

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Not everything in the world is constant except in the concept of change. As individuals, we adapt the changes, and that is how the world keeps on developing. The same thing applies to technological innovation, as well. There is always the latest trend in every technology because it aims to help to make the world a convenient and better place to live for humans. In line with this, here are the top trending technologies you might want to check out.

Internet Of Things – IoT has been a hot topic in this tech-driven era. It consists of a definite framework of multiple-cloud computing, backed up with a flawless combination of activators and sensors. With all the innovations in the environment around us, IoT is making the network of anonymous devices a bucket of reality. These include smart wearable devices, smart cities, and manufacturing industries. The Internet of things is expanding itself to a variety of significant areas as well, where it provides useful applications. This includes home automation, security solutions, healthcare, and home appliances access. Who knows? It might reach a different level in the next few years by managing city transportation systems as well as power grids.

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Virtual Reality And Augmented Reality – The definition of VR is the use of technology that creates a computer-based simulated environment. It can be an actual place or animated scene photographed and gets integrated into a VR application. The person can move, look around, and view everything as if he is physically there. The idea is the exploration of places that a person has never been to. It can include different countries, specific location up in the mountains, as well as rovers in the outer space. AR, on the other hand, is a better-enhanced version of VR. It functions with the use of digital information. It is where both the virtual world and reality comes into one place. The best example for this is the game called Pokémon Go. Both serve the idea of enhancing an individual’s experience in industrial and gaming purposes.

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Cyber Security – Since there is a massive growth of the digital world, there is an adequate threat of cyber-attacks which can sometimes be hard to determine. These attacks include attempting to access specific and sensitive information and aim to change or destroy it. There are instances that some hackers will want to take advantage of the information and use it to gain financial benefit. Thus, the importance of protecting cybersecurity is a must. Cybersecurity protects data, digital services, and daily systems. Businesses and large industries should need it to counter all damaging digital threats. But note. There is a high demand for understanding basic to complex cyber issues to identify and resolve every piece of it completely.

These are only some of the few examples of the top trending technologies you might get interested with. There are still more from where it came from. Stay tuned on the next list that I will prepare for you.

Honestly, all people will agree that technology is one of the most useful inventions ever created. And along with the internet, everything is quite possible these days. However, a lot of experts and professionals would not recommend someone to spend a lot of his time engaging in technology. That is primarily on devices that have the potential to harm the well-being of a person such as smartphones. No one would genuinely need a confirmation from a therapist or psychologist that too much usage of this gadget is terrible for someone’s health because the parameters are way too obvious.

The Effects

A lot of people who are in between 18 to 64 fall asleep while holding their smartphones regardless of the study that it can disrupt the body’s biorhythms. People are not concern enough to think that too much usage of it causes the brain to malfunction. With this, we tried collecting terrifying and surprising consequences of too much smartphone usage during the night.

Julia Hogan, LCPC once said that “The amount of sleep you get and the quality of that sleep can actually affect your physical and mental health in ways you don’t anticipate.” It is natural for the body and brain to follow a rhythm or cycle of sleep as well as wakeful state. That is because a complete rest is necessary to bring back the energy of these two so they can function during the day time. However, when there is constant exposure to the light of the smartphone, especially when it is dark, the brain and body feel the same effect of the sun. With that particular instance, the brain starts to decrease its melatonin production. It is the hormones that are essential in keeping the mind and body asleep. When there is a decrease in melatonin, the body’s capability to fight cancer and other diseases also slow down. Therefore, when an individual keeps on using his phone at night, it confuses the brain and thinks that the light is from the day. Thus, it will not sleep. That is the reason why even if the body demands rest, the brain does not allow it.

Another thing that happens when there is too much usage of smartphones at night is the accumulation of toxins in the brain. That is because, during the day, the whole system accumulates neurotoxins or the organic compounds that are lethal to the peripheral and central nervous system. Therefore, even if the human body contains tons of intelligent mechanisms that fight free radicals; it will not quickly get rid of the toxic substances when there is no long phase of rest and sleep. The sleep gets disturbed and broken. As a result, an individual suffers from headache, exhaustion, tiredness, as well as stress. With that, it is vital to get at least 7 to 9 hours of sleep per day. Because otherwise, the body will not get purified from neurotoxins, and the neurons of the brain will not have time to regenerate. The “inability to sleep at night and/or a feeling of detachment could be signs that your anxiety is in fact, a mental health disorder.” Wendy Iglehart MA, LCPC, LLC expresses.

What people do not entirely care about is the brain’s focus to receive new information. That is no wonder it gets overloaded in the morning. It suffers from a difficulty processing everything an individual tries to learn and understand during the day. And since too much usage of the device encourages a harmful effect, it makes the brain lose its potential to retain memory. Therefore, there is a tendency that the already existing information will become harder to remember. The mind becomes untidy and overflowing as well, which makes it harder for it to gather and store additional data. With that particular state, the brain, along with the body, will drastically require extra time and effort only to obtain the desired memory enhanced result.

People also know that too much smartphone usage causes vision disorder where the blue light from the device negatively impacts the eye’s retina. That is when smartphones are being used in the darkness. The eye structures become irritated. The damaging effects are gradual. However, some cases can lead to almost blindness.

The Predictable Reality

“Sleep helps your brain work properly. While you’re sleeping, your brain processes complex stimuli.” Staci Lee Schnell, MS, CS, LMFT said. Perhaps a lot of people would say that they only check their Facebook feed for a couple of minutes before they go to sleep. Or maybe scan some Instagram photos and all. After that, they promise themselves to go back to sleep once all done. But the sad truth is, every time they get to their senses, it is already morning. It means this state makes people captive with their device. That is why they spend more time with their electronic gadgets and sleep fewer at night.

We can say that technology has dramatically affected the way we live. It is ever growing and changing while our body and minds couldn’t keep up with it. It harms our mind, our psychology, on us physically and especially our children. We might not have noticed it, but our kids are different due to these technological advancements called gadgets.

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A recent study shows that the common cause of stress for many people has something to do with their working conditions – it can be because of the work environment or their colleagues. This fact or truth does not come as a surprise, especially for someone like you has experienced some issues at work. It can be hard to try to balance your desire to succeed in your career while trying to make an effort to improve your mental health. The reality is that there are times when your work may demand too much from you to the point that you forget to prioritize yourself or even share quality time with your family members.

 

 

“If you find yourself avoiding parties, work gatherings, or even your own friends and family, there may be a fear of judgment or underlying feelings of inadequacy.”  Dr. Marisa Alter, PsyD, a clinical psychologist explains. In this article, we are going to provide you with some tips and tricks on how to survive the different problems that you may encounter in your workplace. Before anything else, it is essential for you to understand the reality that you have what it takes to take control of whatever happens in your life. You need to understand this so that it will be easier for you to control your thoughts and actions as you continue to go to work every day and deal with different people. Here are the practical things to keep in mind:

 

Assess Your Current Work Situation

 

The initial step that you have to do is to look at your current work status. Do you love what you do? Are you happy whenever your boss gives you a task? Do you feel great when a colleague recognizes your excellent outputs or reports? If you answer yes to all these inquiries, then consider it as a good indication that you have a wonderful job. There may be instances when you would feel stress or anxiety, but they are only normal. With a proper mindset, you can eventually get over them.

 

Do Not Be Afraid To Quit

 

On the other hand, if you believe that your work is taking a toll in your life, then maybe it is time to give up. Do not stick with a job that you dislike or one that makes you unhappy just because you are afraid that it will ruin your future. At this point, it is vital to emphasize that your mental health is superior above all else. Never put yourself in a sad, compromising situation where you are always stressed or anxious. Failure to do this can lead to some disorders such as depression.

 

 

Avoid Toxic People

 

If you want to experience and have a peace of mind, be sure to keep yourself away from toxic people. These are the individuals who keep on comparing themselves to you. At the same time, they are the ones who continue to talk behind your workmates’ backs. Keep in mind that the mere fact that they do it to others means that there is a possibility that they will also do it to you. Take note that their toxicity may affect you in so many ways. They can also influence your mood or attitude, which is why you need to be separate from them so that you can still be happy. “When trying to keep a positive attitude, you must avoid people who thrive on negativity,” says Fran Walfish, PsyD.

 

Take A Break

 

One of the crucial things that you must never forget is the importance of taking a mental health day every now and then. Whenever you feel that you are under a lot of stress and pressure, then be sure to take a vacation away from work. Go to a nearby town or travel to a different country. Do whatever it takes to make yourself feel good again. Traveling to new places may be costly, but you will be surprised by how amazing it can get. Every trip provides you with an opportunity to start a new and be happier. Note that“ Vacations are coping mechanisms that help us adapt to the everyday stresses in our lives.” John Mayer, PhD said

 

 

Conclusion

 

Work is not supposed to weigh you down, but instead, uplift your soul or spirit. Make sure to think of your welfare instead of the work opportunities that come your way. No amount of money is enough to allow yourself to have a problem with your mental health. Once you realize that your poor working conditions will never change in the next future, then do not be afraid to quit. Look for another job – one that will not make you feel anxious or stressed.

But if you can cope, cope like this: therapy in your own room at a very affordable price. BetterHelp is an app that gives access to therapy and counseling at the tip of your fingers. Go on, try it out and get better help.

 

 

Mental health is a serious topic that everyone needs to give serious attention to. Take note that the suicide rate for different places around the globe has risen over the past few years. It shows that many people are choosing to end their lives instead of dealing with problems. A recent study shows that a significant increase in the rate of suicide is attributable to problematic mental health. Unfortunately, many individuals are now suffering from different psychological disorders and mental problems.

 

“Major life transitions can bring up a lot past memories, increase anxiety, disorder eating and body image, and even though it’s “the happiest time of your life”, depression and other mental health symptoms are known to flare up.” Brie Shelly, MS, LMHC, RYT said. Because of this, it is crucial for everyone to help in spreading mental health awareness. People need to know that there is a solution to whatever disorder they are going through. At the same time, they have to understand that there are ways on how they can handle their issues in the right manner. In this article, we are going to provide answers to the common questions concerning mental health. Our primary objective is to help people all over the world; to let individuals know that it is okay to talk or discuss mental health and that the same is encouraged.

 

Question No. 1: Is Therapy Always Necessary?

 

“Therapy provides long-lasting benefits and support, giving you the tools you need to avoid triggers, re-direct damaging patterns, and overcome whatever challenges you face.” Chris Corbett, PsyD said. But take note that searching for a therapist is not always mandatory when it comes to mental health issues. While it is highly recommended in several instances, the same cannot be said to minor disorders. However, once you notice that you have been mentally unstable for an extended period and you suspect the presence of the symptoms for depression or other disorders, it is best to start looking for a therapist or a psychiatrist.

(Don’t want to leave home but need to talk to a counselor or a therapist? BetterHelp is here to serve you in the most convenient and affordable way possible. Download the app or visit their social media accounts to get yourself the help that you deserve and need.)

 

 

Question No. 2: What Is The Difference Between A Therapist And Psychiatrist?

 

Many people get confused about the distinctions between the two professionals. It is the reason why a lot of individuals are hesitant to seek professional help because they have no idea where to go. Well, the main difference between a therapist and a psychiatrist is that the latter has a medical degree. As such, he has the right to issue medications for his patients. On the other hand, a therapist specializes in many fields, particularly in the area of treatments and recoveries.

 

Question No. 3: How Can I Know If I Have A Mental Health Problem?

 

Keep in mind that there are tons of mental health disorders. Each type has its own set of signs and symptoms. The first thing that you must do is to be educated about the said disorders so that you can get an idea about it. However, it is crucial to be careful in not doing any self-diagnosis. Just because some symptoms are present in your case does not automatically mean that you have a serious case of disorder. For this sole reason, it is best to consult only with a professional. Look for a therapist or psychiatrist who can evaluate your condition and can give you a definite diagnosis of the issue.

 

 

Question No. 4: Is There A Way To Improve Mental Health?

 

There are a lot of things that you can do if you want to improve your mental health. First of all, find time to do the things that you love. Always strive hard to continue doing what you enjoy the most. “Happy people make healthier choices,” explains Scott Glassman, PsyD. Otherwise, you will only find yourself feeling frustrated or depressed. If this continues to happen for a long time, it can develop a mental issue. Second, see to it that you are physically active. When you exercise, the body releases happy hormones that can ultimately improve your mood and outlook in life. Third, be wary of what you eat as it can affect your physical and mental health.

 

Question No. 5: How Much Do I Need To Pay For Treatments?

 

As already mentioned, there are various kinds of disorders that any person may suffer from. For this reason, there is no hard and fast rule when it comes to the professional fees charged by a therapist and psychologist. The truth is that their rates depend on the severity of each case that they are handling. At the same time, they also take in a lot of factors when it comes to setting the price. Moreover, you need to recognize the fact that in some cases, medications may be required and that can cause the rate to increase.

 

Mental health is a serious issue. Make sure to find time to spread awareness.

 

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In my 40 years of existence, I think I am entitled to the right of comparing life with and without technology. I’ve gone through years without cell phones and only managed to call my parents through the telephone when I finished school, and they had to pick me up. I have tried using a Pocket Bell to send a few sweet lines to my friends and childhood crushes. My family and I didn’t have much to communicate with two decades back, and we thrived – without cell phones, IPads, and social media. But that is to say that technology then was NOT the technology we have now – or it didn’t exist!

“The rise and growing significance of social media has caused an influx of mental health concerns, such as low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety. Now is the time to start paying attention to how social media is influencing your life choices and mental health.” That is according to Brie Shelly, MS, LMHC, RYT. Now, social media has undeniably played a vital role in the beginning, keeping, and ending different relationships. I’m not into the dating phase at my age now, but I know from the younger generation that Messenger, Viber, and WhatsApp are some of the common ways to meet, get acquainted, and perhaps start what may be the best love story ever.

If not through these messaging applications, there’s the booming business of online dating websites. You start connecting with someone that matched your list of ‘requirements’ in a guy or girl, and then you start by exchanging messages and getting to know each other on the surface. Finally, when you’re comfortable enough, you set a date to meet. The anxiety of having to date someone that you supposedly don’t know much about is inevitable. However, for guys, this is way much easier than saying ‘can I ask you on a date’ face to face.

Effects Of Online Dating

It varies because luckily, not all online relationships end up a disaster. I have a close friend who was crazy over a guy from Canada, whom he knew from a site called Webdate.com. She was telling me how she felt that they were destined to find each other because they were both victims of unhealthy relationships. I told her she couldn’t be sure of that until they’d really meet and spend more time together. And so they did. The guy decided to live in our state for a year, just to see if they were a match – and they were. They’re living happily now – in Canada. All because of an online dating site.

However, not all social media love stories end up happily. Some don’t even progress to video calling, while others end up becoming seriously violent and disastrous. Also, Sam Louie MA, LMHC said, “While someone may not have crossed any physical boundaries with social media flirting, “liking”, and texting with emojis, experts believe it can turn into an emotional affair (i.e. an affair of the heart).”

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Whether online relationships succeed or not, the fact is that technology through social media and other digital applications have become part of the new era’s norms. It has affected how relationships are built, improved, and maintained. For men, it might have been their easy way out from the risk of getting rejected to their faces when they attempt to ask a woman out.

Social Media And Self-View

For the insecure and hesitant, it diminishes some social difficulties, like not thinking about how others would think about you when they see you. They get the opportunity to be free from prejudice and judgment. It can help them ‘sell’ themselves and look into their pros. For them, the effect of social media is empowering.

The downside, though, would be that people might be building a false profile of themselves, a somewhat manufactured list from someone who so wants others to like him. Consequently, this doesn’t end well especially if one is misled and has fallen into the trap – and is unable to get out of it easily. She may have fallen for the ‘Internet self’ rather than the ‘real self.’

Overall, most people who deal with social media for establishing romantic, business, family, other significant relationships claim that there is a great deal of anxiety related to getting to know someone electronically. But they are also hopeful about the setup as well. According to them, what’s important is how you will progress to the next step in the real world – when you are face to face.

Technology And Using It To Your Advantage

“Balancing technology use with other aspects of daily life seems reasonable, but there is a lot of conflicting advice about where that balance should be.” Christopher J. Ferguson Ph.D. in clinical psychology explains. Before the age of the Internet, when we break up with someone, and we wanted to forget about them as soon as we possibly can, it was easy. We could tear the love letters, burn the photographs, and eat at a different restaurant. Now, no matter how much we do our own thing, we see our exes and their lives with their families for free on social media.

Currently, developers are trying to improve on their products by attempting to increase privacy and limit opportunities of seeing everyone and anyone. Eternal Sunshine is one of these companies, a program that attempts to delete all memories of an ex digitally. Hopefully, this will be the start of better means to prioritize one’s privacy and freedom of choice.

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In the end, if you’re trying to know someone through the social media, remember that real connections are determined when you find the effort to bring it to the next level – off of social media and into the real world, where one can build memories through shared experiences.